Loneliness

A major problem facing people today is grief and loneliness. The two often go together because many people grief over being lonely. Loneliness has become even more of a major issue than in the past but no one are ready to talk about it. Loneliness means not being alone; it being not yourselves as you are. Now everyone u see around with someone or the other, enjoying the company by doing something like going out, seeing movies and go for morning walks. But how many are ready to open up and discuss or talk about what they feel or think or going thru in their life. People fear to talk the truth, express what exactly they are thinking or feeling. They are also not able to tell others their problems because of the same. This is making a person to feel lonely even if he is among group of people always.
Getting on with people is same like getting on job. If you have lost a job, u may have to learn how to market yourself all over again or even relocate to a new and strange environment. Same is with the relationships. If you loose one, try to get new one.
Loneliness is not a sin. If you are lonely, don’t add feelings of guilt to your list of wounds.
Crisis always provokes change and change of this type like loosing an old friend or relationship in which u have invested a lot emotionally is very hard. But however painful it may be, change always brings new things into our life.
Hope is like an anchor that keeps us on course when we are being tossed to and fro, this way and that, by the storms of life.
Lean on yourself, trust self, be confident and rely on your own insights and understanding of relationships in your life. Recognize and acknowledge for yourselves the right and wrong things you did in that relationship.
Anyone can survive alone if you can counter those feelings with positive actions by doing things you like the most and treating yourselves well.
We can all find plenty to regret in our lives, but regret only produces more agony. When you have been hurt, the quicker you get involved in helping someone else, the better off you are going to be. Reaching out to other hurting people helps you forget about your own pains. But the most important thing is that you have to reach out to yourselves and see you don’t harm yourselves because you are feeling lonely at present.
Forgetting what happened in the past and straining forward to what lies ahead must be the goal of the hour.
Don’t be angry at anyone and don’t be angry at yourself. Do not waste your life being bitter. Depression steals a person’s energy making us apathetic and lethargic, desiring to do nothing. U have to face the truth bravely as it will have positive effect on our live.
When we look to others, expecting them to make our pain go away, we are making a mistake. First of all, people cannot give us everything we need. Second, expecting others to meet our personal needs for us places too much pressure on them also.
Not everything and every relationship in your life is over; just one part of it has ended. One relationship has passed; another can now begin - if you are willing to take action and ready to keep aside the emotional feeling out the past relationship.

Regards,
Tirumalanath
tirumalanath@gmail.com